{"id":175,"date":"2015-03-06T07:00:00","date_gmt":"2015-03-06T12:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/bitachonbalanceandblessings.wordpress.com\/?p=175"},"modified":"2015-03-06T07:00:00","modified_gmt":"2015-03-06T12:00:00","slug":"post-purim-notes-for-next-year","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/bitachonbalanceandblessings.com\/index.php\/2015\/03\/06\/post-purim-notes-for-next-year\/","title":{"rendered":"Post Purim Notes for Next Year"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Sitting down at the computer now, it’s been a busy and beautiful day. One aspect of this blogging platform that I’m particularly enjoying and coming to appreciate is the journaling aspect of jotting down my thoughts and knowing they’ll be there to reference in future years, to grow and to learn from. After each chag, we have those recurring thoughts regarding what went well, and what we’d like to remember for next year. Well, here’s my report. Perhaps it’ll enlighten more readers than only myself.<\/p>\n

1. \u00a0 \u00a0 First Thoughts<\/h2>\n

Aka, my gut reaction. Purim this year was beautiful. The mishloach manos were delivered, cards sent, megilla heard, matanos l’evyonim given, and seuda had. However, I. Did. Too. Much.<\/strong> Purim is a time with so much potential. We can involve our young children in the preparations, affording them a deeper appreciation of what each mitzva symbolizes. However, in today’s age of social media, where so many of us are looking at others’ themes and family costumes on facebook, pinterest, or instagram, or even just passing on the street while wishing one another a “Freilachem Purim,” we’ve got to get back to basic. I’m not saying that we shouldn’t have themes. I’ll continue to do so as it makes the preparations even more exciting in our house. However, I’ll scale it back im yirtze Hashem next year so that we can focus on what’s important; our relationships with Hashem, with each other, and with ourselves. Lesson 1: Tone down the details – it doesn’t have to be perfect.<\/strong><\/p>\n

2. \u00a0 \u00a0 Choosing\u00a0My Kids’\u00a0Costumes<\/h2>\n

This year, while on vacation I found the cutest costume for my son. It was great, it was perfect, and it was all Boy. However, I knew our theme had been chosen for the wrong reasons when my son was at shul, saw someone dressed as a clown, and said “I wish I were dressed up as a clown.” Puzzled, I reminded him that we’d had a clown costume that would have been just his size this year. He answered me saying “I didn’t know that was an option.” Lesson 2: Let the kids choose their own costumes – it’s their fun.<\/strong> Don’t get me wrong, he enjoyed and had a good time in his costume, but we have to realize that as our little ones\u00a0get older, kids must\u00a0be able to express their identities through their own imaginations and ambitions – and on Purim, the costume is their form of\u00a0expression.<\/strong><\/p>\n

Another aspect of the costume thought process that I’ve noticed in recent years, is that (at least the little ones) are being asked to bring their costumes into school on Taanis Esther. Particularly on years when I’ve put a fair bit of DIY effort into a costume, I’m hesitant to send it in knowing that it may get dirty of damaged\u00a0before<\/em> Purim. In lieu of this, I pull out a dress up costume from the dollar store that my little one can wear to school that day. saving his real costume for Purim itself.<\/p>\n

3. \u00a0 \u00a0Planning Ahead<\/h2>\n

I’ll write down the following deadlines now, so\u00a0that perhaps I might remember for next year.<\/p>\n

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  • Rosh Chodesh Shvat – Have a theme chosen.<\/li>\n
  • One week into Shvat – Place eBay orders (I’ve become a huge fan of ordering aspects of costumes extremely inexpensively on ebay. However these can often take more than a month to ship.).<\/li>\n
  • Rosh Chodesh Adar –\u00a0Have\u00a0a list of card mishloach manos \/ card recipients completed so I’m ready to go shopping and place card orders. Have all DIY costumes DONE. Take pictures in full costumes if using for mishloach manos labels \/ notes.<\/li>\n
  • 7th of Adar\u00a0– Have cards filled out, stamped and sealed, ready to mail. Mishloach maos shopping should be completed (possible exceptions if food items might spoil).\u00a0Have mishloach manos labels \/ notes designed and printed. Have seuda menu completed. Have all seuda decor bought, including paper \/ plastic goods.<\/li>\n
  • 12th of Adar – Have mishloach manos packed, and ready to go. IF making real food MMs that need to be assembled last minute, purchase easy to close packaging with no fumbling, tying, or curling aspects. Open gift bags are ideal.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    \u00a0Lesson 3: Plan ahead, and stick to the plan.<\/strong> In short, I may or may not actually stick to these by the book next year, because life happens. But I do know that I’m going to try my best. There’s got to be a game plan. A game plan was soarly missing this year, and I felt it in my exhaustion leading up to Purim.<\/p>\n

    4. \u00a0 \u00a0 Mishloach Manos<\/h2>\n

    So many lessons here. Lesson 4: Buy open top bags (gift bags) if giving real food MMs<\/strong> so that they can be assembled in advance with the fresh food component just being popped in easily on Purim morning. Lesson 5: If making a seuda, cut down recipient list to the bare bones, and send cards instead<\/strong>. Between the cost, time management of making mishloach manos, and then delivering, in addition to making a seuda, something’s got to give. If you’ve got the time, go for it, however if life is particularly busy (and whose isn’t) it’s fine to cut down. Lesson 6: Keep them\u00a0simple.<\/strong>\u00a0Lesson 7: Skip the homemade themed baking projects.<\/strong> There’s a good chance they’ll end up not being eaten, and are extremely time consuming. Lesson 8: Remember that we’re meant to spend more on matanos l’evyonim than on mishloach manos\u00a0<\/strong>– keep priorities in check.<\/p>\n

    5. \u00a0 \u00a0 Seuda<\/h2>\n

    OK here I declare an unabashed WIN. I pre-cooked and stored foods in the freezer and was able to meal plan with detailed ingredient lists. More importantly however, I finally convinced myself that I had cooked enough food (Jewish mother syndrome anyone?). Lesson 9: Know when to stop cooking. Ask yourself: is this appetizer necessary? <\/strong>The decor side of things, well, that could have been done earlier.\u00a0I’m going to give myself breathing space\u00a0on this one, because had misshloach manos been\u00a0simplified (see lesson 5 above) decor would have been done much earlier. One aspect of expansion I would like to consider for next year is to\u00a0Lesson 10: Consider inviting non family members who may need a seuda.<\/strong> There are so many people out there, whether a single parent or simply a single man or woman, or maybe an older couple whose children have moved away, and would appreciate an invitation.<\/p>\n

    6. \u00a0 \u00a0Matanos L’evyonim<\/h2>\n

    This is simply an idea I’d like to share because I love having one less ‘to do’ on my task list for Purim. Lesson 11: Find out if you can prearrange matanos l’evyonim donations.<\/strong> My shul has established a set-up whereby members\u00a0arrange for our rav to be a shliach of our money, and it’s all arranged before Purim so that I know there’s one less task\u00a0to be done on this busy day.<\/p>\n

    7. \u00a0 \u00a0Megilla<\/h2>\n

    I really, I mean\u00a0really<\/em>\u00a0like the shul where I heard megilla last night, however it was a very family oriented minyan, which meant there were many stalls in the leining waiting for kids to quiet down, which meant we got home late, which meant my little one was very<\/em> tired today. In future years, I’m going to reread this post and be reminded to Lesson 12: Attend a leining that’s quick, and quiet<\/strong>\u00a0if there is one available – again, this applies especially if planning a seuda in our home.<\/p>\n

    ……Till next year!<\/p>\n

    What lessons did you learn this year’s experience that you’d love to share? Please comment below!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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